My husband wants an open marriage and I don't know if that's something I can agree to. I have thought about a threesome or other people in our sex life but he is talking more about each of us having other relationships that are separate from our relationship. Like a separate boyfriend or girlfriend possibly.
I found out he had been lying and cheated on me multiple times since 2011. He said he thought I wouldn't want a more active sex life and was scared to talk about his wants in the bedroom. I'm having such a hard time forgiving him for all the lies and deception that I can't even start to work out how I feel about sharing him with someone else that would actually love him too not just someone who joins us in bed.
Does anyone here have an open marriage like the one he wants that is willing to talk about how it works and how your marraige is doing (and possibly any other questions I come up with)?
Also has anyone here been cheated on and was able to forgive them and build a lasting marriage after? How did you do that?

 

This is just my advice, but go find yourself a great lover and have a really good time.

I just don't think that people are built for monogamy, and that relationships get screwed because people can't admit that fact. The more open and honest you are about it, the less likely it is to ruin your love or feel like betrayal. An honest and open relationship also makes it easier to avoid the risk of disease that can be more likely when relationships are kept in the shadows.

 

I am a husband that wants my wife to have sex with other men but she is not open to the idea but I still ask her about it from time to time. She knows that it is my dream for her to have sex with other men and if she feels like she wants to do it she has my blessing and I hope they do it bareback and she tells me about it. I would love to see it and I would love to be able to eat her creampie. My answer to you is if he is going out you need to go out and have a good time as well. Find a guy or a few guys and have some fun and let them cum inside you as they should just make sure they are nice clean guys and be safe about who you choose. I hope some guy gets my wife pregnant that would be great we would love a child.

 

I would just tell him that he needs your permission first and you need to meet the other girl

 

This isn't about having an open marriage...it's about whether or not you trust your husband. And it appears to me that you can't. He was perfectly willing to cheat on you multiple times without bothering to ask if you would accept an open marriage. To me, that's a deal breaker.

Just my $.02.

 

Baby I would offer to share if I got the chance to fuck around on you!

thinskin

 

Amen sistah!
A relationship has to have a foundation of trust.
Be it a business or personal relationship.
He is already in an "open marriage" but you're not.
Now you have to decide if you can live with his cheating.
(if you can't tell your spouce about it, it's cheating)

 

I have to agree with kiniko. I have friends have done this and it was the husbands idea and they are not together any more other than just one night stands from time to time. But I have other friends that it has worked out for

 

100% agree. Forget the sex part, your husband is a liar.

 

I wish my wife would like an open marriage.. Just would seem like fun

 

To me, my opinion....if someone lies to you, how can you possibly trust them again? If they lied to you once, they'll lie to you again, and again. Apparently, he is doing it, without your permission. What he is looking for, is your blessing, to go out there, and fuck, every woman in sight, that appeals to him! In return, by you getting another man, he won't have to feel guilty, of defiling the marriage vow oath he had taken, before God, in church, when you both got married. Even if he gets your blessing/approval, I know he won't get God's! That even applies to you too! Just food for thought!

 

I agree, her marriage is already on the Rocks !! TRUST is a big part of a Relationship. Communication is another. If he wanted to open the marriage. Should have talk to her before. A PERSON has the Right to say No or HELL NO !! I have been in the swinging scene & many marriages don't last. It takes a very stable relationship even for that & she definitely doesn't have that. I would suggest a marriage consular or a Divorce Attorney !!!! Tell Him How you FEEL. Your Feelings Matter !!

 

EXCUSE ME BUT WOULD YOU LIKE TO HAVE A.I.D's ?? Or other STD's ??
Use your Head no not that one The one that might have a Brain, Always use protection with penetration !! Fantasies are nice, Reality might KILL Her !!

 

Wait, he couldn't communicate about the bedroom so he had multiple affairs? What kind of shit is that?!

As some have said, he's already in an open relationship. You're the last one to know out of "multiple" people. :wall:

I'm really sorry you're having to deal with this.

 

+100

He gets caught and the fall back is "...um.....oh, yeah. OPEN MARRIAGE. What do you think?"

Kick his ass out. If you decide you want an open marriage, pick someone who knows what it means first.

 

YOU MUST HAVE THAT ONE FRIEND YOU ALWAYS KNEW IF YOU HAD A THREESOME IT WOULD BE HER. IS YOUR HUSBAND NOT ATTRACTIVE. WHATS THE PROBLEM. LET HIM WATCH YOU GETTING LICKED BY ANOTHER GAL.

 

He wants things his way - cheating in the open. He obviously doesn't respect you, your opinions, your feelings or your marriage. Is this the person you want to wake up next to for the rest of your life? If not, then you had better take steps to find your own happiness.

 

hi hon, I just make the block slut

Might as well be an open relationship!
It is at his end of things anyway!
opens the opportunity to lots of ok revenge sex?

a new freedom

 

Show him the open road..

 

I'm in a similar situation myself and gave in to the open relationship thing tbh it's just made things a hell of a lot harder instead of having one problem to deal with I now have 2. My advice would be work on your relationship 1st or make it very clear to him that if you find someone who makes you feel like you matter then your off. That way he makes the decision and if he really wants you he won't want to chance the fact the you might find someone better. It's really hard knowing that your partner is leaving the house to have sex with someone else and then coming back to your bed.